This week's theme: Forgiveness.

Today is practical. Less reflection, more action. Get a pen.

ONE THING TO DO TODAY TO LET IT GO

We've talked about what forgiveness is. We've looked at Joseph and at self-forgiveness. Today we're going to actually do something about it.

Because here's the truth: forgiveness is not a feeling you wait for. It's a decision you make. And sometimes you have to make that decision with your hands as well as your heart.

Jesus made this practical. He said when you're praying, if you've got something against someone, forgive them. He didn't say "wait until you feel ready." He didn't say "wait until they apologise." He didn't say "wait until you've processed it for a year in therapy." He said when you stand praying, forgive.

That tells me forgiveness is something you can choose to do. Right now. Today.

So today we're going to do an exercise. It takes 10 minutes. You'll need a piece of paper, a pen, and a few minutes of privacy.

Step 1: Write the name

At the top of a blank piece of paper, write the name of someone you need to forgive. It might be someone else. It might be yourself. It doesn't matter. Just one name. You can do this exercise again with other names later.

Step 2: Write what they did

Below the name, write down what they did to hurt you. Be honest. Don't soften it. Don't minimise it. If they betrayed you, write betrayed. If they abused you, write abused. If they abandoned you, write abandoned. This isn't about being polite. This is about being honest with God about what actually happened.

If the person is you, write what you did. Same rules. Be honest.

Step 3: Write what it cost you

Underneath, write down what their actions cost you. Time. Trust. Peace. A relationship. Years of your life. Your sense of safety. Your faith in people. Whatever it cost, name it.

This is the bit most people skip. We try to forgive without first acknowledging the damage. But you can't release something you haven't named. You have to look the cost in the eye before you can put it down.

Step 4: Write the prayer

At the bottom of the page, write these words in your own handwriting:

"God, I have been holding onto what [name] did. It cost me [what it cost]. Today, I'm putting this in Your hands. I am not pretending it didn't happen. I am not saying it was OK. I am saying it is no longer mine to carry. You take it. You judge it. You handle it. I'm done."

Sign your name underneath. Date it.

Step 5: Tear it up

Tear the paper. Not into two pieces. Into many pieces. As small as you can make them. Then throw them in the bin.

This is not symbolic. This is somatic. Your body is doing what your heart has been trying to do. You're physically separating yourself from what they did. You're putting it down. Out of your hands. Into the bin.

You might feel something shift when you do this. You might not. It doesn't matter. The point isn't the feeling. The point is the decision.

You decided. Today. To let it go.

YOUR ONE THING FOR TODAY

Do the exercise. Don't read it and think "that's a nice idea." Actually get a pen and do it. 10 minutes. If you can't do it today, schedule a time to do it this week. Put it in your calendar. Don't let this email become another thing you almost did.

OVER TO YOU

Did you do the exercise? You don't have to share who or what. Just hit reply and say "done." Let me know it actually happened. Sometimes the accountability of telling someone is what makes it real.

God bless you, my friend.

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